Not a Good Week to Remember!

Often times it’s hard to watch the news.  There are so many stories that don’t make the news that would enlighten so many and bring hope to those who believe there is no hope left.  Then we have the sad & shocking stories that do make the headlines that leave us all in disbelief and feeling like we just took a trip into the Twilight Zone.

Tuesday with the death of Kate Spade hitting the airways and the sad news that she committed suicide. Then Friday rolls around and we hear the news that Anthony Bourdain has died and he also committed suicide. These two sad stories brought so much sadness to so many people.  You could hear the pain in the celebrities that were interviewed and read the pain in those who wrote statements and fans who wrote comments on different articles.

I have no idea if Kate or Anthony knew one another, but the situations surrounding their deaths are still sad all the same.

Not only were they both celebrities; but they were around the same age.  Spade was 55, and Bourdain was 61; both with different careers and fan-based demographics.

The media has not released whether or not Anthony left a suicide note or not.  At this time it looks as though no note was left so that still leaves the question as to why he felt so lost that he couldn’t reach out for help?  Many people wear a mask and are one way around people or the camera if they are famous and a complete other way when they are alone. The Great Coverup!  As sad as it is, two great people are gone suddenly and two families are devastated and two daughters are left without their parents.  Kate’s daughter cannot go talk to her mother when older about boys, her Senior Prom and all the things young girls and mother’s talk about or help her daughter prepare for her wedding when older.  Anthony’s daughter cannot go to him and discuss boys and the fact that a boy wants to take her out or to Senior Prom and he won’t be there to walk his daughter down the isle one day when she gets married.

Common Denominators:

Both highly successful in their careers and both left behind young children to forever be confused as to why their parents chose to leave this world the way they did; and questioning, if it might have been something they did or if their parents loved truly loved them.

Kate Spade did leave a note telling her daughter how much she loved her and ending it with ask Daddy. The note only leaves more questions than answers for a young child and who knows if her daddy really has the correct answers or not?  The last I read Kate’s husband stated that she was suffering from depression.  Let’s just hope he and the rest of the family can provide this beautiful child with the love, attention, and therapy she is definitely going to need to pull her life together.  My heart goes out to them all.

Often times when a person commits suicide, they have been contemplating it and maybe have even tried and failed.  When celebrities take their lives, it usually creates a spike in suicidal thoughts and actions. Fans and everyday people look at Celebrities as individuals who have it all together and are living the good life that many of us would love to live.  Many of us forget that these are just ordinary individuals who may have careers on television and are in the limelight, but they are human just as we are, with emotions and problems that they face on a daily basis with deadlines to meet, bills and taxes to pay as we do.  These people have marital problems, family issues, and have an image they must try to live up to for the public.

There has been an increase in suicide in the last few years and the age of the victims are getting younger and younger.

Risk Factors According to the CDC:

More than half of the Americans studied by the CDC who died by suicide did not have a mental health condition. Substance abuse, financial stress and relationship problems or loss are all factors that contribute to suicide risk, data shows. Suicide remains the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S., according to the CDC.

Questioning suicide? Call someone, anyone: A friend, neighbor, family member, religious figure, hospital, doctor, mental health specialist, the police department or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).